Self help dating books men

01-Sep-2017 20:23

I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.Comments like "Oh, I thought you were going drive/get the tickets/plan the trip/[insert other traditionally masculine roles here]" can help in priming his confidence if it seems to be lagging and it bothers you.Dating a shy man takes a lot of initial investment for an uncertain outcome.If a girl doesn't approach or initiate contact with a shy man, nothing will happen.

This is what prevents them from taking the initiative in the first place.

" If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.

So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.

That offense will reflect negatively on you and the relationship.

So be careful about how much (and which) initiative you take.

This is what prevents them from taking the initiative in the first place." If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.That offense will reflect negatively on you and the relationship.So be careful about how much (and which) initiative you take.Once this happens, you will need to gradually assume a less assertive (more traditionally female) role, because he will then be more liable to get bored with you, wonder if he could do better, consider his other options (the perception of which his newly-found confidence will likely inflate), fool around, etc.